Alhamdulillah, kali ni dapat balik rumah, after a tiring month in college... So, how's life for the past 1 month? Well, I can honestly say, my life is OK, just OK.. I've make an improvement in balancing my study and duty, and I'm really grateful about it... Hope it will last longer...
Jadi, berbalik kepada tajuk.. Apa kajian yang telah dibuat? Haha..sebenarnya tak ada kerja pon nak buat benda nih, saja mengisi masa lapang ['lapang' lah sangat kan.. =p] A research had been done to view people's opinion on 'Apakah perbezaan antara suka dan sayang?'
So, here's the result..
1 - Suka adalah perasaan terhadap seseorang yang memberi inspirasi dan tidak serius. Sayang, perasaan ini terbit kepada seseorang yang kita dah kenal luar dan dalam seseorang itu dan menerimanya seadanya..
2 - Suka ramai, sayang seorang je...
3 - Suka : hanya pada luaran, ada masa-masa tertentu. Sayang : melibatkan hati selamanya...
7 - Suka melibatkan minat kepada sesiapa saja.. Sayang pulak, contohnya, hati akan sakit bila tahu orang yang kita sayang, sayang orang lain..
8 - Suka contohnya macam suka makan, tido, dll.. Sayang pulak kepada family dll..
9 - Suka selalunya gitu-gitu je.. sekadar mencuci mata.. Sayang adalah perasaan suka yang terlampau amat terhadap seseorang sehingga kadang-kadang boleh melukakan hati kita...
10 - Suka adalah perasaan main-main je, bukan dari hati. Sayang boleh terjadi dari hati yang luhur penuh ikhlas dan tulus.
11 - Suka adalah perasaan yang masih belum ikhlas di hati. Sayang tu perasaan yang ikhlas di hati.
12 - Suka boleh bertukar jadi tak suka. Sayang akan berkekalan sampai mati....
13 - Suka ni minat (atas faktor tertentu). Sayang ni general ( bukan sebab sesuatu faktor)
14 - Kalau suka, tak semestinya sayang. Kalau sayang, mestilah suka. Suka boleh ramai, sayang tu untuk orang yang betul-betul istimewa..
15 - Suka boleh untuk macam-macam keadaan. Tapi sayang adalah perasaan yang kita tak boleh nak kehilangan seseorang atau sesuatu.
Ha, dah dapat gambaran apa bezanya? Ni ada lagi dua pendapat from my friends which I think its very interesting!
Suka is for someone you can live with.
Sayang is for someone you can't live without.
Daun suka batu.
Daun sayang akar.
Hidup daun bergantung kepada siapa?
Batu atau akar?
Daun akan mati tanpa siapa?
Batu atau akar?
Daun membesar dengan bantuan siapa?
Batu atau akar?
Siapa yang faham keperluan daun?
Batu atau akar?
Jadi, boleh nampak konsepnya di situ? =)
Secara kesimpulannya, suka adalah satu perasaan yang boleh timbul kepada sesiapa sahaja, tak kisah seberapa ramai sekalipun, atas sebab-sebab tertentu, dan tidak serius.
Sayang, boleh disimpulkan sebagai perasaan kepada seseorang yang sangat-sangat bermakna dalam hidup kita. Selalunya timbul terhadap seseorang yang ada 'bond' atau ikatan dengan diri dan hidup kita.
Bagi saya pulak, suka adalah perasaan yang timbul hanya kerana sifat LUARAN atau KELEBIHAN seseorang.
Rasa sayang pulak wujud apabila kita boleh menerima semua KELEBIHAN dan KELEMAHAN seseorang...
Wallahua'lam... =)
*saja2 je buat benda ni, hilangkan 'ketegangan' dalam study kejap... ok, boleh sambung balik study ni..hehe.. =p
Assalamualaikum semua.. Ni post yang kedua untuk hari ni.. Tetiba semangat nak tulis sebab I've got something to share.. ^^
Ok, in every post, there is some topic to talk about.. So, today I wanna write about 'Konflik Nilai' or 'Krisis Nilai'.. *Ni sambungan daripada topik yang dipelajari waktu kursus kat Grand Continental Hotel dulu... Do you know what is 'Konflik Nilai'? Situasi ni selalu sangat kita hadapi.. Boleh dikatakan norma dalam kehidupan.. Situasi ni selalunya berlaku antara 'senior' and 'junior' (kalau kat asrama), antara golongan tua dan muda, golongan profesional dan biasa, golongan lama dan baru, bahkan, antara kita dan ibu bapa pon boleh berlaku! So, have you got an idea what is 'Konflik Nilai' is all about?
Erm, I'm not sure about the EXACT meaning of it, but 'Konflik Nilai' berlaku apabila seseorang datang mengadu masalah kat kita, tapi kita tak nak selesaikan, MALAH kita meremehkan masalah yang dihadapi oleh orang tu..
Contoh 1 (situasi di asrama) :-
Junior : Akak, macam mana nak guna mesin basuh ni?
Senior : Alah, nak guna mesin basuh pon tak reti, takkan kat rumah tak ada
mesin basuh kot? Tulah, mesti selalu harapkan mak atau bibik je yang buat kan? Hesh!
Contoh 2 (situasi di rumah) :-
Adik : Abang, tolong ajar adik buat kerja Sains ni.. Adik tak faham la..
Abang : La, yang tu senang je, takkan nak kena ajar kot. Cikgu kat sekolah tak ajar ke?*(hoho, yang tu kejam) =p
Contoh 3 (situasi di kedai telefon) :-
Mak : Amboi, telefon ni canggih sangat, macam mana nak tulis mesej?
Anak : Mak ni, itu pon tak tau..bla3.....
*(tak baik betul!)
(AMARAN : Jangan tiru contoh2 tersebut di mana-mana sahaja anda berada! Sungguh kurang sopan!)
Haha..itulah antara contoh 'Konflik Nilai' yang berlaku zaman sekarang.. Senang cerita, CONDEMN orang! Ha, antara sebab UTAMA berlaku 'Konflik Nilai' adalah kerana ketinggian pengetahuan dan keluasan pengalaman seseorang yang merendah-rendahkan kekurangan pengetahuan dan kecetekan pengalaman orang lain.... Tak baik tau buat camtu..Kedekut ilmu namanya tu... (hmm..kadang-kadang aku ada terbuat gak.. Tapi, manusia kan tak sempurna dan tak pernah terlepas daripada membuat kesilapan..) So, kalau dah sedar tu, hopefully janganlah diulang kesalahan yang sama lagi.. Sama-sama kita memperbaiki kesilapan diri dan berubah ke arah yang lebih baik.. Mudah-mudahan Allah mempermudah juga urusan kita.. Ameen... =)
Lamanya tak update blog... Bukannya busy pon, it just that I don't have the mood to write something..but still got many stories to share.. Tak pelah, nvm about the past.. ;)
So, for today...Today is 27 December 2012.. Whoaaa..do you realize that we almost at the end of the year??!!! Ya Allah, cepatnya masa berlalu... Rasa macam baru je lepas tengok bola Malaysia lawan Indon dekat Indonesia dulu yang bikin gawat habis tuh! Tup2, tahun ni, 2-2 pihak pulak yang kalah..haha.. *I'm not a 'kaki bola' pon..Tiba2 cakap sal bola pulak.. =p
Hmm.. And I can still remember, those times when I was in deep pressure because I can't fit in my new life at my new school... Huhu..those times, full with tears.. That's why I'm labelling, 2012 is Tears Year! If I think back all those experiences I faced in this year, it just bring more pain than laughter.. =( BUT, whatever it is, I am grateful with what I had faced.. Experiences is the best teacher right? If I don't face all those obstacles and challenges in life, I would not be able to grow matured, right? EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON. Now, I can slowly see the reasons...... *I can't believe that I'm actually had already past a year in that new (not so new) school! So, there is just one more year left.. I hope 2013 is gonna be a better year.. No more tears I hope!
However, there's something that I still can't understand.. Hmm..nvm.. What I can do is just avoid it for the time being..I don't wanna face that kind of problems right now cause it surely can disturb my focus in facing the MOST IMPORTANT YEAR - SPM 2013... So, close the book of <3 !!!
Honestly speaking, I never meant to hurt anyone's feeling.. Humans aren't perfect right? So, I know there are times which I did mistakes without realizing it.. I think, the best way to avoid problems is trying to be honest.. Honesty also can avoid many misunderstanding.. But there are still risk that we have to take by being honest, because sometimes, 'Kebenaran itu menyakitkan'... Don't you think so? Hmm.. (O_o)
Hey there.. Listen to this song.. I know I'm a bit 'kuno' cause this song was the soundtrack of the Narnia - Prince Caspian, which was screened on 2008 (agak lama kan? =p) Tapi try dengar la.. I love this song because it has a deep meaning.. Look at the lyrics below, and you can make your own assumption.. =)
THE CALL - REGINA SPEKTOR
It started out as a
feeling
Which then grew into
a hope
Which then turned
into a quiet thought
Which then turned
into a quiet word
And then that word
grew louder and louder
Til it was a battle
cry
I'll come back
When you call me
No need to say
goodbye
Just because
everything's changing
Doesn't mean it's
never
Been this way before
All you can do is try
to know
Who your friends are
As you head off to
the war
Pick a star on the
dark horizon
And follow the light
You'll come back
When it's over
No need to say good
bye
You'll come back
When it's over
No need to say good
bye
Now we're back to the
beginning
It's just a feeling
and no one knows yet
But just because they
can't feel it too
Doesn't mean that you
have to forget
Let your memories
grow stronger and stronger
Til they're before
your eyes
You'll come back
When they call you
No need to say good
bye
You'll come back
When they call you
No need to say good
bye
Wanna know what I think about this lyrics? The first paragraph shows that I have a feelings of nervous, scared, etc..which are all related to Sijil Pelajaran Malaysia [SPM] 2013, which will determine my future and also tells about my last year of being a high school student next year, which is the sad feeling to separate with my friends... :-/ Then, that feelings grow into a hope, a hope to get a flying colours result, 9A+ [Ameen!] =) and a hope that I will never lose contact with all my friends..
'A battle cry' - for me, a battle which is full of tears, tears of fear, happiness, pain. and so on..
'I'll come back, When you call me, No need to say good bye' - I will never forget my friends, as long as we have the 'ukhwah fillah', insya-Allah our bond of friendship will never end, Friends till Jannah! =)
The next paragraph, for me, it's mean that everything will change after SPM.. We will face the real world, the reality of life.. But, it doesn't mean that we never know how to handle ourself in journey to be a better person.. We already received the education to prepare ourself to face the challenge in real world.. The only basic thing that we must find is just good friends, friends who can support us and always remind us for good.. In the journey of life to be an adult, obviously we need to be independent.. No more families around us, especially for those who further their studies in overseas.. So, only friends we have, and they play a big role in shaping us, and facing the 'war', war to achieve our dreams in world and hereafter..
'Pick a star on the dark horizon, And follow the light' - for me, it means the 'nur' or 'hidayah' from Allah..which means that whenever we feel lost, feel like there's no hope or way out in any problems we faced, just remember, there's always 'light', given by Allah to His servants, and we will ONLY get that if we always remember Allah, obey His orders and leave His ban.. and just DO not forget to PRAY..
'You'll come back, When it's over, No need to say good bye' - Somehow, no matter how far we go, no matter how high the dreams we had achieve, we still need and will come back to the origin ; our own families, homeland, etc..
Then, next paragraph, have meanings that are related to the previous phrase, which is about back to the origin.. We can't deny, that in this world, they're still some people who had forget about their origin, especially after they had achieve pleasure in their life.. In easy words - LUPA DIRI.. Ish3..It's definitely not a good thing! So, how can we avoid this bad demeanor? = Always do reflection about everything that we had did daily [MUHASABAH DIRI], Insya-Allah. ^-^
'Let your memories grew stronger and stronger' - Means that every memories contain a thousand and billions of experiences that we had gone through.. Have you ever heard an idiom - EXPERIENCE IS THE BEST TEACHER ? Then, we should let the memories stay inside us, which will then give us some kind of motivation to do the best in the future!
Yeehaa..! >_< That is all that I can say about the song.. How I interpreted it..hehe.. I know la the real meaning that was written by the lyricist was absolutely different from my interpretation.. But, hey, this is my blog, where I express my OWN opinion.. ;)
P/S : Wanna share some 'chocolate of our heart' [santapan jiwa] / [motivasi diri] which I get from my junior, Liyana Ismail.. She is sooo nice! And this is her expression of opinion about REGRET ; a word which I fear the most:
regrets are not always a bad thing. regrets plays a big part in life and that's what makes you a life. nobody's perfect and nobody will be. being cautious 24 hours a day, doesn't that sounds regret because ur too busy worrying to face mistakes? regrets are a good thing in which you will think twice about doing so in the future. but at the same time, make sure ur not stupid enough to make a fool outa ur self b'coz the first time it is a real mistake, the second time is a choice. :)
Hey there.. How's life going..? Or more accurate, how's holiday going? Yeah, as for me, holiday is great! Everything is fine.. Plus, I need to take motorcycle license this holiday! Seriously can't imagine that! ; I'm big enough already! [like someone said, "Hoho..big Amira"] (O_o) huhu..*scary for me* I never ride a motorcycle before, ermm...pernah la naik, banyak kali k, cuma x pernah bawak je.. =p Huh..just get ready mental and physical for that.. Pray for me! Hehe..
Ok, so...let's get back to the main topic.. 'Menjadi pembimbing'. What I'm gonna write is about becoming a leader, a guider, and someone who is more like counselor, for our friends out there who are having problems and conflicts.. Actually, on 8th and 9th November 2012, I had followed a camp, organised by my college, handled by my beloved counselors, Mr. Shahid and Mrs. Syarima.. Tajuk kem ialah Kem Transformasi Kepimpinan Siri 2 - Kursus Aplikasi Kemahiran Kaunseling Dalam Kepimpinan.. The camp was held at Grand Continental Hotel, Langkawi, [Luaran hotel nampak je buruk, tapi dalamnya cantik kot! Memang best ah!](^_^) So, lots of new and beneficial things I've learnt there, even though the camp just last for 2 days only..huh.. [Wish we had more time.., walaupun kadang2 rasa ngantuk menghinggapi diri..hehe] Kem ni dihadiri oleh 67 orang pelajar yang terdiri daripada badan kepimpinan maktab, BWP, LDP, PRS, BADAR..
What activity that we had there? Well, after finished packing all things, and done with the pressure of final exam, we went to the hotel and arrived there around 4.00 p.m..[except the Tasawwur students, who were still 'fighting' with their exam papers..O_o] We were given the chance to rest, and get back to Dewan Enggang 3 at 5.15 p.m.. The CEO [Hijazi] and Manager [me] were chosen, and the program started with session 'Penyelesaian Masalah dalam Bidang Tugas'.. Everyone need to write their personal view about 'pelaksanaan tugas sepanjang tempoh kami memegang jawatan', 'penerimaan orang ramai terhadap jawatan kita' and 'konklusi'.. So, here are some problems picked randomly by Mr. Shahid to be solved..
1. Masalah : Takut nak menegur orang lain walaupun dah ada jawatan
Penyelesaian : - Jangan anggap diri tak sempurna jika hendak menegur
- Jangan tengok diri orang yang menegur, tapi tengok apa yang ditegur(teguran yang diberi)
- Guna konsep segi tiga, tegur orang bawahan dulu(adik2), then orang yang sederhana
penerimaannya dalam teguran, then barulah tegur orang2 yang betul2 hard core..
- Dalam melaksanakan tugasan, buat untuk dapatkan pahala!
- Konsep kerja : Mengimarahkan kebajikan dan menambahkan pahala
2. Masalah : Semangat untuk menjalankan tugas semakin luntur
Penyelesaian : - Untuk menegur orang yang tak nak ikut peraturan, kita boleh tukar cara menegur atau
teruskan je usaha (bila diorang dah bosan, diorang akan ikut jugak)
- Letakkan matlamat (hasil) yang rendah..( kalau tak boleh sampai ke bulan, memadailah
sampai ke langit)
- Tegur orang yang berbeza tahap dengan cara yang berbeza
3. Masalah : Tak selesa dengan pandaangan orang apabila jadi pemimpin
Penyelesaian : - Itu perkara NORMAL..
- Teori pemikiran tak rasional : a. We must/always get what we want.
b. Everyone will love you.
c. If we're wrong, we always blame on others.
- Kalau tak rasa apa2 bila jadi pemimpin, it's not normal (bermasalah)
- Ubah cara berfikir.
4. Masalah : Tak tahu bidang tugas, so tak tahu nak buat apa..
Penyelesaian : - Tanamkan kecintaan dalam diri terhadap jawatan dan tugas.
- If we love our job, we will put our efforts to find so many ways to full our days with the
job, means we will not just sit back and doing nothing.
- Kalau kita faham tugas kita, jawatan kita, kita takkan kisah dah orang lain nak cakap ape.
Hmmm...dah habis baca? Ok, jom sama2 renungkan dan perbaiki diri agar dapat jadi leader yang mantop! Ada baaaaanyak lagi pengisian dalam kursus ni, but stop setakat ni dulu.. Later2 sambung lain, wait for the next entri! Tuan punya jari dah letih and lapar..~ So long...~ ^-^
Lamanya la tak update blog.. Malas punye pasal..padahal ade je mcm2 cerita menarik nak dikongsi.. Hmm..x pelah.. Let it be safe and sound in the heart and mind.. =)
So, tonight's topic is 'Kesetiaan Dalam Tawakal'.. haha..sounds interesting right? I had just discussed bout the topic with my friend last night.. *Entah macam mana tetiba je terbincang sal topic nih.. =p So..let's see what we have to share.. :
- If we want a relationship to keep everlasting till the age of suitable for marriage, especially for the teenagers, what we need to do is to be loyal.. And most important thing is to Tawakal to Allah.. So, how can we be loyal to someone and at the same time tawakal to Allah?
In my opinion, when we think we like someone, we love someone, and we think that he/she is the perfect one for us, we definitely feel that we want to have an everlasting relationship... However, as a Muslim Teenager, we MUST NOT do something which is illegal in Islam, something that is over the limit in Islam.. We MUST NOT ruin the relationship with vices and sins... So friends, please do remember this sentences from Al-Quran :
“Boleh jadi kamu membenci sesuatu, padahal ia amat baik bagimu, dan boleh jadi (pula) kamu menyukai sesuatu, padahal ia amat buruk bagimu; Allah mengetahui, sedangkan kamu tidak mengetahui.” (Al-Baqarah: 216)
Meaning that we must go back to Allah, give all our hopes and surrender to Allah.. Because we do not know what Allah has plan for us in the future... We, as Allah's weak servant, can only plan for something.. Allah The Almighty is The One who determine everything..
So what can we do? Just PRAY to Allah..
"Ya Allah, jika dia benar untukku, dekatkanlah hatinya dengan hatiku.. Seandainya dia bukan milikku, damaikanlah hatiku dengan ketentuan-Mu..."
Try to listen deeply with your sincere heart, soul and mind to this song :
When we keep pray and pray to Allah, that shows our LOYALTY IN TAWAKAL.. =)
By the way, this is only my opinion about those "couple" things... For me, there's no need to use that term in a relationship.. Majority I saw and heard most of teenagers who coupled must ended with a clash or broken heart.. My Dear Friends..why you need to hurt yourself..?? Suffice merely with 'suka sama suka'.. No need to declare or spread out the news.. While you still don't have a legal relationship, just keep it in your heart.. This way can avoid slander from people around us.. It's better right to have a harmonious life? Sometimes, people are minding your affairs maybe because you did something wrong in the community.. If you didn't do anything wrong, believe me, no one would care what you want to do..(except those who are envy towards you)
So, the conclusion is, during this young life, teenagers' life, NO NEED TO BOTHER ABOUT LOOKING FOR PARTNERS what so ever.. JUST LEAVE IT TO ALLAH.. ALLAH KNOWS WHAT BEST FOR US..
If we like someone, don't tell that person, tell to Allah..
Katakanlah "jika kamu sembunyikan apa yang ada dalam hatimu atau kamu nyatakan, Allah pasti mengetahuinya. Dia mengetahui apa yang ada dilangit dan apa yang ada dibumi! Allah Maha Kuasa atas segala sesuatu" (al Imran:29)
Hanya pada Allah lah tempat mengadu segala isi hati.. Sesungguhnya ALLAH MAHA MENGETAHUI... (^_^)
